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How I met my wife, Maryam – IBB

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Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida (IBB), Nigeria’s former military president, has opened up about his marriage to his late wife Maryam in his newly released autobiography.

 

The book, titled ‘A Journey in Service‘, was launched on Thursday. The event also featured a fundraiser for his presidential library.

In the memoir, Babangida said he first met Maryam, formerly Maria Okogwu, during their younger years in Kaduna.

 

He said at the time, they were both living in the unmarried officers’ quarters on Kanta Road.

The former military ruler said he was immediately drawn to Maryam’s striking beauty, and their friendship blossomed over time.

 

IBB said despite his training stints abroad, including in India and the United Kingdom, their bond endured.

 

The 83-year-old statesman said he would often visit Maryam at the home of his close friend and cousin Garba Duba, whose father was fond of him.

 

He said the connection allowed him to spend more time with Maryam and their friendship continued to grow.

 

“I first met Maria Okogwu (as she then was). As young officers, we shared digs in the unmarried officer’s quarters by Kanta Road in Kaduna, and I was now seeing more of Maria,” he wrote.

“She was stunning. Her ebony beauty set off enchanting eyes, and her dazzling smile showed off a lovely set of teeth; when she smiled – and she often smiled – her face lit up, and her eyes danced. Duba was as much a brother as a cousin to her, and, on the back of that, I often saw Maria at Duba’s house and when she visited us at Kanta Road.

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“I was very fond of Maria, and she, eventually, of me. There was more than an element of predestination in our relationship.

 

“It was at NMTC that I began to notice Maria more. Duba’s father was fond of me, so I was mindful that my bonds with the family meant that I had to be more cautious than usual, a factor that synced with my natural shyness.

 

“She and I remained friends and maintained that friendship through my early years in the army, which included sojourns abroad for training in India and the United Kingdom.”

 

IBB recalled how his near-death experience at age 28 sparked his desire to get married. He said after being shot in battle, he was left with a piece of shrapnel lodged in the right side of his chest.

 

The former head of state said while receiving treatment at the Lagos University Teaching Hospital (LUTH) in Idi-Araba, Lagos, he felt a sense of urgency to settle down.

 

IBB added that as his parents’ only surviving male child, he felt the weight of responsibility to start a family and secure his legacy.

 

“This was the first time I recall seriously thinking it was time to find a wife as a life partner. I was 28, and it seemed to me that it was time to settle down,” he wrote.

 

“While I was in the hospital, the Head of State and Commander-in-Chief of the Armed Forces, General Yakubu Gowon, had gotten married to his lovely wife, Victoria, with much pomp and military pageantry.

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“I cannot deny that their marriage and the accompanying ceremony further focused my mind on getting married myself.

 

“Lying in my hospital bed, I had lots of time to run through the various relationships I had had and try to decide which of them would best stand the test of time. Time and again, Maria Okogwu kept popping into my mind with her ageless beauty and enchanting smile.

 

“I had settled on Maria as the woman I would wed before being discharged from the hospital, and as soon as I was discharged, I made my way to Kaduna, where she lived with her mother and uncle. I was anxious to share the good news with her: I had decided we were destined for a life together. I admired her greatly for her reserved nature and the fact that she was well brought up.

 

“I wanted to make my intentions known to her and was determined not to accept No for an answer. Fortune favours the bold, and it smiled upon me; I counted and still count myself lucky. Initially, Maria was highly sceptical of me as marrying material.

“She knew that I had a track record of being something of a man about town, and those were not the qualities she wanted in a husband. She was unconvinced of my capacity to be serious, and many people said as much to her.”

IBB said with the support of Muhammadu King, Garba Duba’s father, he was able to win Maryam’s heart.

 

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He revealed that his faith was an integral part of his life so he asked her to convert from Christianity to Islam.

Babangida said he also promised Maryam that he would not take multiple wives, a practice he had seen cause turmoil in other families.

“I shared with her the fact that my faith was an integral and essential part of my life and that I would require her to convert to Islam,” he said.

“Praise be to Allah; this was not a difficult decision for Maria. Being part-Christian and part-Muslim at birth and already living in a Muslim household, it was never going to be wholly uncharted territory for her.

 

“She adapted with relative ease to married life as a Muslim. In proposing to Maria, I assured her that, though a Muslim, I did not intend to take multiple wives and bring up children from different women. I knew full well that my chances of a stable family life would be significantly improved if I avoided polygamy. I had witnessed close up – both among professional colleagues and in my extended family – the headaches and heartaches this led to, and that was not the life I wanted to live or to share with her.”

Maryam died from ovarian cancer in a Los Angeles hospital on December 27, 2009, at the age of 61.

Babangida said coping without her had not been easy, but the memories of their life together provided solace.

IBB married Mariam on September 6, 1969. They have four children together — Aisha, Muhammad, Aminu, and Halima.

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From Global Prestige to Grassroots Patriotism: The Inspiring Saga of Kayode Ajulo – A Life Dedicated to Service Over Self

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Kayode Ajulo

Imagine a man who rises from the bustling streets of Ibadan, Akure & Abuja armed with nothing but unyielding determination and a passion for justice, to become a beacon of hope for the oppressed across Nigeria.

This is the electrifying story of Olukayode Abraham Ajulo, OON, SAN—better known as Kayode Ajulo—a trailblazing Nigerian lawyer, civil rights activist, arbitrator, lecturer, and public servant whose life is a masterclass in blending professional brilliance with heartfelt advocacy and unshakeable political courage.

His journey isn’t just a resume; it’s a rallying cry for anyone dreaming of turning personal triumphs into collective victories, proving that true greatness lies in lifting others as you climb your own peaks.

Called to the Nigerian Bar in 2001, Ajulo didn’t waste a moment. He kicked off his professional journey at the Federal Ministry of Justice, gaining invaluable insights into the machinery of national governance. A brief but transformative tutelage at Afe Babalola’s prestigious Emmanuel Chambers in Abuja followed, sharpening his legal acumen under one of Nigeria’s finest.

Barely two years at the bar, he rose to become the Head of Chambers at Dr Tunji Abayomi & Co.‘s Abuja office, where his innovative style of practice—particularly his generous pro bono services for the vulnerable—won hearts and built unbreakable bonds with people from all walks of life.

This compassionate approach didn’t just endear him to the masses; it propelled him into the political arena, where he boldly contested for the Senate seat in Nigeria’s, Federal Capital Territory, Abuja, under the Labour Party banner.

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Ajulo’s political star continued to rise as he became the youngest National Secretary of the Labour Party, a master strategist who also chaired the Ondo State Radio Vision Corporation, amplifying voices and ideas across the airwaves. Yet, in a move that showcased his integrity, he resigned from his national role, declaring his need to refocus on his legal practice and dedicate himself fully to serving humanity.

Building on his solid foundation, Ajulo pursued advanced studies: a Master of Laws in 2006 and a PhD in Workers’ Rights and Corporate Social Responsibility in 2017. These credentials fueled a career that spans continents and impacts lives profoundly. As the founder and managing partner of Kayode Ajulo & Co., Castle of Law—a high-end law firm specialising in litigation, arbitration, corporate law, and workers’ rights—he’s established a global footprint with offices in Nigeria and affiliations abroad, including the United Kingdom, his second home and where he invests wisely.

An Oxford-trained arbitrator with a Diploma in International Commercial Arbitration, Ajulo’s elevation to Fellow of the Chartered Institute of Arbitrators in the UK cements his status as a global dispute resolution expert.

His courtroom triumphs are the stuff of legends: picture him leading a pro bono defence in 2021 that overturned a death sentence for teenager Adeolu Bamiteko, accused of stealing a phone, by exposing glaring prosecutorial flaws.

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His accolades shine bright: Ondo State Advocate of the Year in 2017, the Knight of the Order of St. Paul, the prestigious national honour of Officer of the Order of the Niger (OON) in 2022 from President Muhammadu Buhari, and numerous traditional titles like Bamofin of Akure Kingdom (elevated from Bamofin-Lewe) and Mayegun Aare Ona Kakanfo of Yorubaland.

At the heart of his mission is the Egalitarian Mission Africa, his NGO championing equality in social, political, and economic realms through bold initiatives like Free-A-Prisoner-A-Day since 2003, freeing the innocent and restoring dignity, which boasts of freeing over five thousand inmates from the gulag.

As a consultant to the Nigerian Governors Forum (NGF), Ajulo played a starring role as a recovery consultant, spearheading the refund of Paris Club debt deductions—recovering billions of dollars for states, correcting historical over-deductions, and fueling development projects nationwide. Though media scrutiny occasionally arose, Ajulo’s clarifications have always underscored transparency and justice.

A vocal critic of corruption and a staunch advocate for rule-of-law independence, Ajulo’s political journey with the All Progressives Congress (APC) reflects his fearless spirit. His oratory prowess and mentorship have earned him monikers like “legal colossus” and “pathfinder,” inspiring peers with his confidence and grace.

On a personal level, Ajulo’s legacy blooms in his family: he is happily married to Lady Kofoworola Ajulo and he’s the proud father of three female lawyers—aged 23, 21, and 20—who are carrying the torch of legal excellence forward.

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Appointed Ondo State’s Attorney General and Commissioner for Justice in February 2024 under Governor Lucky Aiyedatiwa, he has unleashed reforms like the Anti-Land Grabbing Law, a Criminal Records Database, and digital legal services, while securing court victories for the state and his principal.

What truly sets Ajulo apart is his patriotic pivot: forsaking lucrative opportunities in Abuja, New York, Atlanta, Chicago, Lagos, or London to return to Ondo State. Inspired by Ondo icons like Chief Gani Fawehinmi, SAN, GCON, he chose grassroots impact over global glamour, applying his blessings—wealth, honours, mentorship, and recoveries—to uplift his people.

He’s the epitome of a “rooted cosmopolitan”: world-class yet homebound, proving that patriotism fuels progress.

Ajulo’s saga is more than a biography; it’s an exhilarating call to action.

In a world fixated on wealth and comfort, he reminds us that our talents are divine trusts for the greater good. By sacrificing ease for service—through pro bono heroics, billion-naira recoveries, and state-level reforms—he shows that true fulfilment comes from bridging divides, defending the vulnerable, and mentoring tomorrow’s leaders.

Let his story ignite your own: step beyond your comfort zone, wield your blessings boldly, and build a legacy that echoes eternity. In serving others, we discover our highest selves.

Kayode Ajulo this is your life!

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Culture minister Musawa speaks on failed marriage to billionaire businessman Samad Rabiu

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The minister of art, culture and creative economy, Hannatu Musawa, has spoken out about her failed marriage to Abdul Samad Rabiu, billionaire industrialist and BUA Group chairman. 

Hannatu, in an interview on MIC ON, said she maintains a close relationship with her ex-husband. She explained that their shared roots and long-standing ties between both families have made it natural for them to remain connected and respectful.

The minister praised Rabiu, adding that she deeply admires him and is proud to remain associated with him.

“Abdul Samad is my ex-husband. However, we happened to come from a background where once you’re joined together, you continue to participate in each other’s lives. We were married, and now we are family, brother and sister, best of friends,” she said.

“I think it has a lot to do with the kind of families that we come from. His father and my father come from the same community, so the families all knew each other even before we were born, and we were joined.

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“His grandmother, Hajia Bua, the matriarch of the family, is somebody that I continue to love very deeply. My daughter Hadiza is named after her, and of course his mother is like my mother.

“His mother is one of the sweetest, most wonderful, purest, genuine souls I have ever known. So we continue to share a deep respect, love, and support for each other.”

She painted a picture of a relationship built on profound admiration and active encouragement. She hailed Rabiu’s character beyond his public persona as a business titan, highlighting his kindness and philanthropy.

“He’s my greatest cheerleader and supporter in my career, and I continue to also be his greatest cheerleader,” she said.

“I shall continue to be proud to see the way he flourishes and to be proud to be associated with someone who has the kind of philanthropy and heart that Abdulsamad has.

“People see him as a businessman, but I know him as a person who is the kindest person that I know. He is just a genuinely kind-hearted, good human being, so it’s really very difficult not to continue to have a good relationship.”

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Reflecting on their past marriage, Musawa expressed no regrets, framing it as a foundational chapter that led to lasting personal and professional growth.

“…To think about it, I’m not sure I would change anything about my marriage to Abdulsamad. I’m quite happy with the way things worked out, and I still maintain my friend and family, and I still have my career as well, and the ability to inspire other women to be greater than perhaps what they would have thought they would be,” she added.

“Abdulsamad will always have my heart, no doubt about that. He is one of the greatest experiences that I’ve ever had, but no regrets whatsoever, absolutely just happiness and pride in him as a member of my family.”

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Champion Extraordinaire: Aisha Achimugu Blazing onward at 52

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By Adebayo Adeoye

Today, Thursday, January 22, Aisha Achimugu, Group Chief Executive Officer of Felak Group, will once again have cause to celebrate and count her blessings as she marks her 52nd birthday in grand style.

 

Contrary to the thinking in some quarters, the elegant Achimugu is showsing no signs of slowing down.

 

If anything, she appears more focused, more intentional, and more driven than ever, continuing to inspire with her passion, purpose, and unwavering commitment to excellence.

 

Achimugu, a graduate of Accounting from the University of Jos, Plateau State, has remained remarkably restless. She just doesn’t find any appeal in remaining in comfort zones.

 

As a result, she is still looking ahead, seeking new frontiers, refining her strategies, and aiming higher.

 

It is a fact that Nigeria’s business landscape is filled with several individuals who exemplify the virtue of diligence, which is the most reliable predictor of enduring success. Yet, even within this elite circle, she stands out.

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Since Achimugu, who obtained a Master’s degree in Business Management from the University of Belize, ventured into business, she has sustained her relevance, while expanding her influence, redefining leadership, and blazing forward with the quiet confidence of someone who understands both the power of vision and the discipline required to sustain it.

 

Those who have followed her trajectory with unalloyed interest would readily acknowledge that it reflects deliberate evolution. Although she is frequently characterized as a business mogul possessing poise, power, and purpose, her distinction lies not in privilege or acclaim but in a sustained commitment to growth, innovation, and meaningful contributions to Nigeria’s economic and social development.

 

Her rise within the Nigeria’s corporate ecosystem has been anything but accidental. With strategic interests spanning civil, structural and transportation engineering, consultancy/ transaction advisory services, maritime and environmental waste management and catering, Achimugu, who hails from Kogi State, has built a reputation for incisive decision-making and long-term thinking.

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Industry watchers often note her uncommon ability to read the business climate and position her ventures ahead of the curve. That foresight has earned her global recognition and cemented her status as one of the most influential female entrepreneurs in Africa today.

 

Achimugu commands respect without theatrics. Her profile may be intimidating to some, but it is built on substance: years of disciplined execution, an unshakeable belief in her purpose, and a faith-driven approach to life and business.

 

Over the years, she has become something of a reference point within the entrepreneurial circles. She is a living repository of lessons on how to build sustainably in Nigeria’s complex business terrain. Her career reflects patience as much as ambition, marked by steady, intentional steps rather than impulsive leaps.
But Achimugu’s influence extends well beyond boardrooms and balance sheets. She is equally recognized for her humanitarian work, which has become a defining pillar of her public life.

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To her, philanthropy is not an afterthought or a public relations exercise; it is a moral responsibility and a strategic tool for social stability.
The entrepreneur and philanthropist par excellence is blessed with a deep pocket, a large heart and even deeper is her passion for humanity who loves to see others succeed. She has an innate belief that behind every success story are others helping to make it happen.

 

Her philosophy aligns closely with the words of Mother Teresa: “Let no one come to you without leaving better and happier.”

 

Her targeted interventions, support for sustainable enterprises, and direct assistance to vulnerable individuals, have earned her deep affection across communities.
By supporting visionary ideas and investing in people as much as profits, she continues to shape a legacy that transcends personal achievement.

 

In business, in philanthropy, and in leadership, she represents a powerful reminder that greatness is not a destination—but a discipline sustained over time.

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